There comes a time in every girl’s life when she must decide the type of person she wants to be. Will she be rebellious or will she conform? Will she shape herself to be who people expect her to be, or will she set her own expectations?
This decision comes about early in life; probably earlier than we even notice it happening… But consequently, we will be faced with having to make smaller decisions with actions that depend on the path we chose.
I’m not sure exactly when I decided what type of person I wanted to be… But I now know for sure that I want to be boss. I’ve always felt like I was born to run sh*t.. And not necessarily other people or just a business; but I was born to run every aspect of my own life.
With my decision to be boss, I’ve had to make many decisions that correlate with my position in life. From literally having to work under the authority of others while still maintaining a strong sense of who I am, to having to gracefully accept the things about the world I can’t change, and having to call others out on their bullish*t and show them how to become bosses as well… Being boss definitely isn’t always easy.
But what does it really mean to be “boss” anyway? I’m sure there are many different answers to this… But for me personally, I consider being boss to be the same thing as being free. When you’re boss; you’re free from rules that weren’t created and/or set by you. You’re free to wear what you want, wherever you want. You’re free to say what you want, how you want. You’re free to do what you want, when you want… And not necessarily because it’s legal or socially acceptable, but because you’re boss and it’s entirely up to you.
There’s somewhat of a rebellious perk that comes with being boss — of having free rein to wild out whenever you please… But there’s also a major responsibly that comes with it; and that’s making the world a better place.
In my opinion, you’re not truly boss if you don’t work for other people as well… And I don’t mean work for a company, on someone else’s payroll, but work for the well-being of others. When you’re boss, you want to go far and become successful in life so that you can help the people with you to become successful as well. When you’re boss, you’re a leader who takes initiative and is courageous enough to start a movement that no one else has. When you’re really boss, you don’t even need to tell people you are… Because they can see it in your aura and your actions. You don’t do it for credit or recognition; you do it because you want to… And that’s boss as hell.
When I decided to boss up, I also decided that I would not compromise the person I already was. I did not want to turn cold-hearted, or become arrogant and demanding — characteristics that are often associated with being “boss.”
I am comfortable with having a big heart and being an overlover; being sweet to people (but still knowledgeable and aware enough to not let them run over me); and I am comfortable with being understanding and flexible. Many people have tried to tell me these characteristics are weak or “personality defects” (lol) and I should change and be a tough b*tch in order to be who I want to become… But luckily for me, I know I’m boss and I don’t have to listen to what anyone else tells me I should do.
I have a long list of badd-ass-boss-women who I’ve been learning from since I discovered the power of research (I’ll share it someday)… With me indulging in stories and inspirational lessons from Oprah, Sophia Amoruso, Nicki Minaj, Cinderella, and a hundred more… No one could even imagine the things that I know, the way I see things, and who I am on my way to becoming.
I’m running my own world + I totally got this.
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